Before I get started I feel it’s necessary
to write a disclaimer. I really don’t want to be writing about what I’m about
to write about. Honestly I would
willingly write a four page essay on the war in Syria,Zambian Elections, How
Pedal-Pushers need to become a thing again.… you name it. I would rather write on gender equality in
Politics or how the Olympics are coming up again and I didn’t see it coming. I
could keep going but I think you get the point. I’m about to write about
singleness and waiting (yes yet another blogger). Believe me, I am fully aware this
topic has been talked to death but
lately I have had this nagging feelings that tends to only go away when I put
pen to paper (finger to keyboard) and so here we are.
If you are a woman 25 and older you can
relate to the constant contradictory comments about your singleness/how lucky
you are to still have you freedom, waiting for the right guy/not being too
picky, being patient/your eggs are dying one by one. Everyone and their cousin
has an opinion of your lack a significant other and however well meaning, 99%
of it isn’t going to help you. Hard truth. They mean well… but so did Hitler
(I’ve never been one to understate things).
It’s a lot easier to listen to someone who
waited and reached their goal. Nobody wants to listen to someone who’s waited
and is still waiting. It’s like taking financial advice from a poor person. But
something I’ve realised is that good advice is GOOD ADVICE, even a dead clock
is right twice a day (some old person at a school I went to once said). So though I may be a dead clock in this
respect, I am right! I think…..
As a single woman I know all too well the struggle to remain faithful to your goal. By goal I don’t mean finding “bae”, I mean the ultimate goal happiness. Most of us talk a good game but the reality is we’re not ready to accept the fact that we may be single for a while yet, we maybe single for the rest of our lives. I know it’s not a pleasant thing to imagine, especially if you really want a companion, but something keeps popping up in my head. If you can’t be happy alone, you will not be happy with someone else. So I’m challenging myself and every single girl I know to be happy, in the moment, just as she is. Not waiting for anything or anyone to “complete you”… lets see how far the pursuit of that happiness (see what I did there) takes you and if you’ll still be pining for a partner afterwards.
Let’s do
everything we want to do, be as awesome as we can be and then some… conquer the
world… conquer love and peace and happiness and then see if we’re still dying to be someone’s someone.
